"I truly think every person should have a copy of this.

Sometimes you know that you are uncomfortable with something. You know that you want more information, more time, another option, or simply want to say no, but you cannot figure out what to say.

And when you can’t find your words, it becomes much easier to agree to something you don’t actually want, even when coercion was never the provider’s intention.

That is why I think this product is so important.

Even if you don’t use the words exactly as they are written, it gives you a template. It gives you questions to ask and language you can use when your own words aren’t coming easily.

It’s basically a pocket advocate.

I also really appreciate that this doesn’t simply teach people how to say no. It presents legitimate options that many people may not even realize they have, and gives people language for questions they may not have even known they were allowed to ask.

Because knowing that you’re allowed to say no and actually being able to say no in the moment are two very different things"

–Chelsea B., L&D Nurse

You’ve spent months preparing for your birth. You’ve researched, imagined, planned, and dreamed.

But what happens when your care team recommends something that you don’t want?

Whether you’re in the middle of labor, or blindsided at a prenatal appointment, the hardest part isn’t knowing what you want. It’s knowing how to say it.

Maybe you’ve already decided it’s not right for you.

Maybe you’re not sure yet and you want more information.

Maybe you simply need a minute to think.

Or maybe your gut is screaming, “I don’t want this!”

You should never have to sacrifice your voice or your preferences to have a collaborative relationship with your care team.

You can ask questions.

You can ask for time.

You can ask for alternatives.

You can say no. 

Meet Christine Rogers
I’m a birth doula who believes firmly in your right to make your own decisions, and be empowered, confident, and informed as you make them.

My goal isn’t to encourage you to fight your care team or refuse every intervention as a blanket decision–because sometimes they’re helpful and necessary. I’m here to help you understand your options, ask the questions that matter, and confidently communicate what you want, and what you don’t want.

This is your body, your birth, and your baby. When you have the words to advocate for yourself, you can walk into your labor prepared and confident instead of powerless and depending on the decision of people around you.

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